This is a new experience - sharing personal childhood webs. Opening up like this is new for me. I added my personal childhood web on the right side of my blog page.
Mom (Carole Craig) - My mother's most significant influence on me as a child was modeling hard work and commitment. My mother's nurturing qualities were demonstrated in her ability to provide. That is how I knew she cared. She always made sure my sister and I had everything we needed, within our means, of course. That's also how she made me feel special. Today, she is my strongest influence. At 66, her commitment to the community and the time she devotes to advocating for children is phenomenal. I would not be in the Master's program if it were not for her influence. She has more time now to study the Word and gain more insight into life, relationships, love, and humility. She shares what she learns with me all the time. I love listening to her insight.
Stepdad (Frank Craig) - My stepdad's influence on me as a child was modeling unconditional love and protection. From the age of 11 (when my parents divorced) on up, he always treated us like we were his biological daughters. He has nurtured me by being a loving father. He demonstrated how much he cared and how special I was by coming to school events, activities, taking me where I needed to go and by being a reliable provider. He influences me today in the same way. He loves my boys unconditionally, and goes out of his way to be present and helpful in my boys' lives. He comes to all of my sons' games.
Dad (Jay Smith) - My dad influenced me as a child by showing me how to take care of a home, cook, and drive. I remember when he taught me how to make a bed, scramble eggs, and wash dishes. He nurtured me and cared for me by spending time with my sister and me every other weekend when my parents divorced. He did not skip a weekend! He made me feel special by trusting that I would make wiser choices as a grew older. He gave me the space to do grow and to make mistakes. He influences me today because he is very wise. He also influenced me to treasure my ancestors. He and I have gone to the cemetery to visit deceased relatives almost every year since I could walk. I still go to the cemetery every year to pay my respects.
Dukie (Carrie Leona Boards) - My grandmother (Dukie) influenced me by being down-to-earth. She drank beer, smoked, and cursed, but I loved being with her. She did not baby me. She nurtured me and cared for me by including me in her gardening routine. I loved being in her yard, helping her pick vegetables, wateingr her flowers, and sitting on her porch. She made me feel special by spending time with me in the garden, laughing with me, and being brutally honest. She is deceased now, but she was strong woman that I miss very much.
Grandmother (Roberta Armstrong) Grandmother was one of the strongest women I know. She influenced me as a child by insisting on proper manners, the Queen's English, and lady-like behaviour. Grandma was not really a nurturer, but she groomed us well and I knew she cared. She also influenced me as a Christian and made us go to Sunday school. You know, I can't think of anything right now regarding how she made me feel special. Hmmm. But she was a strong Christian woman whom I respected and honored. She is also deceased now.
Joy, I love how your web is full of all different personalities - especially the grandmothers! My favorite bit was that your grandmothers are so different, yet were able to love and support you in their own unique and important ways. It makes me consider how important it likely is that a child have a web of diverse personalities. Thank you for sharing your web with us.
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Joy,
ReplyDeleteI love the web of your family. The picture is a great idea! How did your relationship with your sister fit into your childhood web?
Mary L.
Joy, your web page of your family is so cool. I especially love grandmother Dukie. Great Job!!! I really love the pictures.
ReplyDeleteWhat a legacy you have, Joy! I find your perspective on each person's uniqueness refreshing. It is commendable that you can look back and appreciate all of the different personalities and glean life lessons and wisdom from each person. Accepting and loving each of those family members in their own uniqueness is a firm foundation that will help you build a sturdy and welcoming "house"" as an educator.
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ReplyDeleteYou have created a web that shows how truly diverse your family is, which I feel all of our families are. You have shown that with so many different types of people raising you, you gained valuable respect for each person in your life as well as valuable life lessons from each one. I hope someday my children speak as highly of me and learn as much from me as you have from your mom. I also hope they see how be much their soon-to-be stepfather loves and cares for them. I hated that my children's family was broken apart but we are a strong loving famiy and now my children will have the benefit of another strong man in their lives to encourage and shape them. You have given me hope for my children and that they can learn so much from all the people in their lives, blood relative or not.
Amy
Joy if it weren't for grandmothers where would we be? Your pictures helped identify your "websters". If just one had not been there what kind of person, do you think, you would be now?
ReplyDeleteJoy I'm loving the Personal Web.. I lovereading the stories and looking at the pictures..
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ReplyDeleteI am glad that you included both your father and your step father in your web. While divorce is never an easy thing, it does not have to be a devastating event. As your web shows, it can be an opportunity to have additional nuturing, supportive, loving people added to the web of a child's life.
Congratulations, your web picture is a great success! I am very moved by the love you share with your audience. You have opened up and blossomed. You've addressed each member of your family whose influence was significant to your growth.
ReplyDeleteWonderful Blog post.